When a significant life change happens, routines stop. When routines stop, habits don’t trigger. Without longstanding routines and habits, life gets hard. Our automated decision-making ceases and we’re forced to think about everything.
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People say patience is a virtue, but I find it more useful to define it as a skill. Patience is the ability to wait for something without becoming frustrated. Sometimes exercising patience is difficult. When we’re forced to wait, we become impatient. When we’re impatient, we expose our frustrations via body language, words, and actions. Our emotions take control. Why do we become impatient and what purpose does it serve?
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Regret is an awful feeling. The more we feel it, the less happy we are in the present. We feel regret when we make a decision that disappoints us. We can regret a decision to act (“action”). And we can regret a decision not to act (“inaction”). Over the last year or two, I’ve been experimenting with ways to minimize regret. It’s hard but worth it.
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When we look into the past, we recognize how much personal change we’ve experienced. But when we look into the future, we underestimate how much we’ll change. Psychologists refer to this illusion as the end of history illusion. Despite changing a lot in the past, we don't believe we'll change much in the future.
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